Intention Over Resolutions: Somatic EMDR and Midlife Maturity
- Jan 5
- 2 min read
The turn of a year doesn't call for resolutions. It offers an opportunity for intention.
Sometimes that intention isn't a plan. It's honesty — lived as a question.
The question forming for me this year is this: What is maturity?
Midlife can be framed as aging, or it can be understood as maturing — a ripening into wholeness, the fruit. A shift from accumulation toward coherence. A quiet redefining of what it means to be oneself.
For many people, this moment isn't about doing more, becoming better, or figuring everything out. It's about noticing what no longer fits and allowing that recognition to guide what comes next.
Midlife has a way of clarifying without urgency.
Attention becomes more selective. Commitments fewer, but more meaningful. What's worth tending becomes clearer than what's worth adding.
The critical part — rooted in the archetype of the Judge — may interpret this slowing as stagnation or failure. But the Judge has two expressions. One is critique. The other is discernment.
Discernment is not withdrawal. It is wisdom in context.
If you find yourself moving more slowly this year, listening more closely, or questioning what once felt obvious, you're not behind. You may simply be in a season where maintaining, caring, and allowing change to emerge is the work. This is the kind of work somatic EMDR supports — not by solving or fixing, but by allowing the body to process what the mind has been holding.
Sometimes the nervous system knows before we do. It asks for pacing that the mind might resist.
2026 doesn't need to be loud. It doesn't need to be solved.
Sometimes, beginning well is enough.
About
Julie Cardoza, LMFT, is an EMDR practitioner working with individuals in midlife transitions through somatic, body-based therapy. Her practice is depth-oriented, relational, and intentionally paced.
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